How many times have you pondered about what to do with your wedding dress? Do you have dreams as a mom of passing it down to your daughter(s)? Well, if so, you are not alone. There are many women all over the world who have that same dream, but I am here to peak into your world and tell you that unfortunately many of those dreams are just that. I know I know this is supposed to be the happiness bucket and here I am taking a stick pin to your dream bubble! I will apologize for being the bearer of bad news, but I won't apologize for telling you the truth. You see I've been trying to tell you this for a while, times have changed and children are not as sentimental as they once were. This new generation doesn't feel it is as important to keep as much stuff as we once did...well, I should say the "types" of stuff we once did. We are in the electronic age, where paper, furniture and china don't have the same meaning as they did in the 80s and 90s.. I talked a lot about this in my How to Get Rid of Our Parent's Stuff post.
So today, I felt it was important to tackle the one thing that many women still hang on to in hopes that they can pass it on to their daughter...their wedding dress.
I know personally, I cringe when I hear a woman saying she is going to save her wedding dress for her daughter. Here is why..when I was planning my wedding I had a vision of what I wanted it to look like and although my mother's dress I'm sure was lovely, that was not the vision I had in mind. Not to mention, I was nowhere near the same size that my mother was 40+ years prior. Lucky for me it was never an expectation that I would wear her dress, in fact, it had long since disappeared.
What I want you to think about is what you can do to preserve the memory and pass down a touching thought, instead of putting your daughter in that awkward position of trying to live her dream and yours. One of the easiest and quickest ways is to just cut a piece of the inner hem or give her your veil...instead of holding on to this dream that will ultimately add pressure to your daughter while she is planning her special day.
Now, some of you may say that I sound cynical or non-sentimental, but honestly I am not. I loved my wedding dress and am on a journey right now to fit back in it so I can get the photos of me in it that I want. Once I get that, the dress is going bye-bye. I may even take a picture in it with a pose showing my daughter looking up at me just as a keepsake of what I hope she will have at some point in her life, but after that...it is going away...because I don't plan to wear it again, so there is absolutely no reason to keep it. I think it is more about your desires and dreams for your daughter...and that is okay, but let's keep the dress out of it (smile).
There are a number of things that you can do with your wedding dress, lets explore a few options:
Although you can find some gorgeous inexpensive wedding dresses, most aren't cheap. One option you have is to try to recoup a little money from your special memory by selling it. You can take it to a consignment store or sell it on varagesale or any other online selling platform. I'd suggest you look for a wedding site that has a resale forum like WeddingBee. Nothing like going to where your buyer is online right. Be prepared, you will more than likely NOT get the price or even half of the price of what you paid. I'd also recommend that you do a little research to see if the dress is still available and if so what is it going for, so you can price under that. If it isn't for sale anymore, is it still in style...if not, that needs to be factored into the price. I would also suggest that you wait until around August, October or March. The main reason is because the most common wedding months are May and October, not to mention Prom time and Halloween (think killer bride costumes).
For some of you, it isn't even about the money. Maybe you just know you will never wear it again and you've just been holding on to it. There are a number of great things you can do with your dress that can help someone else. Don't forget to record it for tax purposes too if donating to a non-profit! A win-win in my opinion!
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Who says you can't create something else that is just as special? The possibilities are endless once you start thinking outside the box. Here are a few ideas:
Now, I am not naive enough to think that you wouldn't have the question about your memories. Well, one suggestion I have is to keep something from your wedding day like your handkerchief, your jewelry or your veil to pass down to your daughter. In my particular situation, I have and will keep my veil. Now, I don't assume she would necessarily want or need a cathedral veil, but She can always cut a piece off and sew it in her dress, her bouquet or her hairpiece. She may even make it smaller to suit her dress and wedding. Depending on the size of your dress and how easily it is to do this, you could cut a piece of the tulle from under your dress as well. I'd make sure to disclose this to anyone who purchases it from you though. As I mentioned earlier, I plan to take photos in the dress one last time with me and my daughter so I have my own special memories. Now all of this depends on me getting back in it, but if push comes to shove I could stage a scene with it laying on the bed or on a hanger with me and my daughter looking at it or doing something with it. Get creative. There is no rule that says you can't enjoy a moment with your daughter and your dress now! Why wait until her wedding?
Now, I'm realistic and I know there are a number of you who just aren't ready to let go of the dream. Hopefully, you will stay with me long enough as a member of The Happiness Bucket network where you will experience a lifestyle change, but until then this is what I suggest:
Now I know this was an emotional realization of what you have been holding on to. I hope you found this information helpful and can begin to address the sentimental things in your life as appropriate. Remember that making these necessary changes in your life now will allow you to live your happiest life possible.
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